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The wedding season is finally over – now it’s baby season. I’m sure by now you’re aware of my feelings on all the fooey fluffliness of weddings.
However ridiculous I think they are, though, weddings don’t change much these days. When a couple gets married, they’ve probably already been living together. It’s more like a celebration that they haven’t killed each other yet, than an announcement of naïvely innocent love.
Babies are different though; babies are game changers. As my Facebook feed becomes swarmed with big bellies and newborns, I get a little queasy. It’s empathy, and a projection of my own fears.
I don’t want a baby. I have absolutely no desire to take on an 18-24 year project that will rip my body apart, bleed my bank account, and challenge my patience. Every once in awhile, though, I wonder what it would be like, what my kid might look like, and if it’s something I’m destined to do.
“You better check what time of the month it is when you start to think those things.” My friend, Michele, made me laugh when she said that, but it’s true. I’m fighting a biological instinct and, luckily, I’m still winning.
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I can relate! I made the decision very early on in life (my teens) that I wasn’t interested in having children. Some of us are maternal and some of us aren’t. I’ve now been married 37 years and haven’t regretted it once. While you’re still of “child-bearing” age, though, expect some flack. Unfortunately, there is an expectation in our society that children are not only inevitable, but desirable, so those who opt out are looked at askance. But stick to your guns if you don’t want children. It’s your life to decide, not anyone else’s.
Thanks Dorothy! Makes me feel better to know I’m not alone. Although I do feel like an outcast that’s ok =)
Now that you’ve put it THAT way… lol What have I gotten myself into? j/k I know it’s just your personal onion Becky.
=D XOXO Savannah, you’re mommy material, though, I’m not! And you know exactly what you’re getting yourself into!
You are no longer an outcast in 2015 as there are many who feel the same way… not having babies. However, once you’ve passed your child bearing years be prepared to live your life without regrets. Don’t let what if or fears make you stop from growing. You’re smart ,you’ll do what’s best for you and I really enjoyed the baby season topic.
Yadira, that means so much coming from such a family oriented woman like you! Personally, I think that mothers are very strong women and they are, in many ways, selfless. I might be strong in many ways, but when it comes to raising a child, I don’t even have the strength to think about it.
In dealing with regret… who knows what I will regret until it’s too late. I’ve already sort of prepared for this, haha, and if I get to be fifty and suddenly I want to mother someone, I’ll just do what I do with animals and adopt!